Wading Through Custody Differences With Your Estranged Co-Parent

When you marry a partner, you expect that you will spend the rest of your days with this person. You start to build your life, establish a combined existence, and start to have a family. Unfortunately, the picture perfect dream of family life can become fractured easily, and you never know when the person you chose to have children with can become the person that you no longer wish to be around. Once you have children with another person, you have no choice but to be tied to that person in one way for the rest of your life. However, it can be extremely difficult to be in a co-parenting relationship with an ex-partner you can barely communicate with. This is often what leads to disagreements when it comes to the custody of children involved. Here are two things to keep in mind that will help you wade through custody differences.

Keep the Needs of Your Children In Mind

No matter how much you would like to have your children with you at certain times of the week or day, it is best to keep in mind that your decisions about who has the child at what time should stem from what is best for the child. Too many parents get their own feelings involved and become selfish about when they want the child to be with them, instead of the other way around. If your child attends school in a certain area, responds better to the environment that the mother or father provides, or the other parent can provide more individualized attention, these factors should be considered.

Family Lawyers Can Help

It may sound like contacting a family lawyer is an extreme measure. However, when it comes to the life and well-being of your children, this is sometimes one of the most logical routes to take. Hiring a family lawyer, like those at Mackay & Company, does not always mean a lengthy proceeding that is stressful on everyone involved. In many cases, a family lawyer can perform mediation meetings were the two parents will come together to make the best choices for the child and come to an agreement. The attorney will act as a mediator between the two of you and helps to relay information without dispute and argument. If an agreement cannot be mutually made about the custody of the child or children, then it will be necessary to take further steps.

Going through custody disagreements with a co-parent can be an extremely trying situation for you and your children. By keeping the best interests of the child in mind and consulting with family lawyers when you cannot make agreements on your own, you can often find suitable arrangements that will work for all involved.